— Keith Mars, Veronica Mars, S02E04, making even a threat of violence goofily witty
- [Keith sets an exploding ink trap & catches Veronica breaking into his safe. As she cleans up--]
- Keith (sarcastically): Hey honey, what have you been up to?
- Veronica: Tell me where to put your father of the year trophy, 'cause there's some place I'd like to put it.
- Keith: Wow, good thing I didn't use the bear trap.
- Veronica: This is not funny. I need to see that diary. She's lying. I know it. I can feel it with every fiber of my being.
- Keith: Honey, you don't have to get all blue in the face.
- Veronica: You're patronizing me?
- Keith: To be fair, I am your patron.
- --"Veronica Mars," S01E14
When 2 actresses ship their characters harder then the writers ever will
Art is often the work of an ensemble, and genius can come from any member. Kudos to Jaime Murray and Joanne Kelly for envisioning the rightness of this possibility and seeing it through, finding sweet subtleties between spoken lines.
So this happened earlier today:
First off, I agree with Ryan Schwartz’s tweet at the bottom—Everwood was an excellent show that explored many deep aspects of being a decent human. And Parenthood does the same on an even greater scale, given the expansive family tree of characters, all at different stages of life. (I love how it’s structured after the 1989 film, but a more apt title would be Living.) The various issues that Parenthood examines run the gamut from uplifting to heartwrenching, but they are nearly always tender and moving.
One particular storyline hits very close to home for me, that of Hank (portrayed by Ray Romano) discovering that Aspberger’s Syndrome may explain his social deficiencies and that that knowledge may offer him ways to fill in some of his gaps. I was hesitant to post my original tweet publicly, but I wanted to note my appreciation for the show’s creators, writers, actors, and everyone involved in depicting someone learning the basics of social interaction, especially at a later age.
When I realized as a teenager that I had many social shortcomings, I retreated from most social situations. Subsequently, twenty years passed without me progressing at all. With Aspberger’s more prevalent in the media, in envelope-pushing shows like Parenthood, I recognized my own struggle. I decided to see a therapist and try to finally learn some of the social tools that others seem to possess innately or acquire naturally. When she advised me to listen to people, be engaged in the conversation, care about what they are saying, I was at once enlightened and astonished that I hadn’t figured out such a simple concept on my own.
Seeing a character on the screen going through a similar process, I feel validated. Still odd, but not alone and not without hope. I tweeted about my reaction to express my gratitude as well as to show any others who may be on a similar path that theirs are not the only footsteps here. And any work toward being a better person is worthy of applause, not ridicule.
Having my tweet mentioned by Tom Amandes, the actor who spoke the very words that touched me through the screen, I feel validated in another way—that my appreciation is appreciated. What more can we ask from our art, as maker or viewer?
When we assume that boys won’t read books with girls on the cover, and then institutionalize that assumption by leaving the “girlie” books out of award nominations (as well as school wide reads, story times, etc.), we insult them. By suggesting that on the whole our boys have a limited capacity for empathy, an inability to imagine a world beyond their own most obvious understanding, and an unwillingness to stretch.
In the same stroke, we neglect our girls. Not because they can’t read “boy books” (they do and will). But because when they see those awards, they also learn something —to accept a world in which they are rarely the central players. They learn, at a formative age, that the “best” books are the ones about boys.
It’s a problem. And when we play into it, when we accept it as THE TRUTH, we’re reaching for the simplest solution, not the best one. Because the best solution would require us to push against the gender bias in the world, and in ourselves. It’s easier to say, “Boys naturally gravitate to these things, and we want them to read, don’t we?” - Laurel Snyder"
— Boys Will Be Boys, and Girls Will Be Accomodating — Open Ticket — Medium / The amazing Laurel Snyder NAILING IT with nuance and empathy and smarts. Read the whole thing. Share it. Yes. (via gwendabond)
There is a darkness in my heart.
On bright and sunny days,
it hides in the crisp shadows,
outside the peripheral vision
of my smiling eyes.
But when the sun sets
or a gloomy fog rolls in
the darkness grows bold
and steps out
to confront me,
push me toward despair,
and try to make me forget
that the sun will yet again rise.
— William Least Heat-Moon (via psych-facts)
Interesting point. I love traveling because people in strange places can’t hold the present against me in the future, releasing me temporarily from my constant fear of seeming a fool. It works both ways.